The Work and Emotional Intelligence Level 1
Next Teleclass begins Sunday, August 26th and Monday, August 27th 2018
Section A: 6 Sundays, 11 a.m. -- 12:30 p.m. PT, August 26th -- September 30th, 2018
Section B: 6 Mondays, 5 p.m. -- 6:30 p.m. PT August 27th - October 1, 2018
Tuition: $397, includes 6 meetings, 3 private sessions with Elizabeth ( $347 value), Facebook private group page, comprehensive class summaries, inspirations (movie clips, poetry, quotes.)
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Finding one’s inner wisdom, and letting this wisdom come forward in life situations is the essence of The Work. For this, we have to learn how to be rest as Quietness—what Katie calls “The Presence that’s always with you.”
Identify + Question = Intelligence. The Work increases awareness as fast as you are willing and able. Perhaps the most significant thing that can happen to you is discovering that your thoughts appear—like raindrops, but you have the unlimited freedom to choose to believe them—or not.
Now we come to emotions. These, too, appear, as inner weather. These, too, cannot compel one to involve with them or react mechanically. As we become more intelligent, we realize, “Why would I indulge in, or identify with negative emotions, since they bring only suffering? What good is fear, anger, hate, resentment, or moodiness?”
In this class, we'll identify and question chronic negative emotions, and find the connection to unresolved or chronic judgments. Once we see clearly that “I suffer because I think, and I think because I am using mental strategies to solve disturbed energies,” then we see the ineffectiveness of this. It’s like using kerosene to put out a fire. Instead, the solution is to withdraw the fuel of thinking from emotions, and simply let the fire burn itself out--letting feelings have their life.
Emotional intelligence is to willingly and consciously “take the ride,” of letting feelings have their life.
“I had the thought ‘This [feeling] is going to kill me,’ and I heard, ‘Is it true?’ and noticed who I would be without the story and I took the ride, and what comes back every time is more powerful than the last. And what comes back is…. You know, I just invite you to die into love." ---Byron Katie
Gradually, as you learn how to take the ride, you'll dissolve the tendency to judge “out there,” in an attempt to control the emotional experience “in here.” Thus, chronic judgments and resentments vanish.
Identify + Question + negative emotions. Because negative emotions will not be solved by “fixing” something or someone out there. They only resolve as you discover what's real in you—the Presence that's always with you; that which is already undisturbed by negative energies. Letting feelings have their life grows your capacity to be that.
This is why emotional storms are worthy adversaries. They are a sure-fire to awaken the sleeping giant of awareness within.
Here are some comments from recent Telecourse Graduates:
"Best Course I've Ever Taken in ITW"
Thank you for a great course. I loved the homework, it was so helpful. The exercises really speak to me deeply. In fact, the whole course was very helpful to me, I think it's the best course I've ever taken in ITW, for sure. Looking forward to Level 2." ---N.K.
"What I Knew has Got Down Into my Body"
I would like to share with Elizabeth and all participants the result of the work I did with Elizabeth in private session last week.
It was a long story of a 25 yearlong friendship interrupted with periods of quarrel; in spite of the many worksheets I did on this friend, the resentment i had never stopped; this time we entered through the feeling/energy and all its process.... Shortly after we finished the session I found that I could call her with a very clear voice and express what I intended without any bitterness nor resentment; we met as I asked her to solve the business which was on then; but the miracle for me is that I finally drop all expectation about this relationship, what I knew in my mind for a long time has got down in my body, she is as she is and i can't change her! Thanks. --B.L.
"Marrying The Work and Mindfulness"
Thank YOU! The course was really beneficial and I see "your way" as marrying The Work and MFN [Mindfulness]. It has been extremely beneficial in my life to realise I can let my feelings have their life without having to shout at someone or some other violent act. --J.B.
I attended the Convention [Institute for The Work] and had a breakthrough moment of letting myself feel in my body a traumatic belief I have held most of my life. It was cathartic and a bit of an event for me and those there. I thank you for helping me feel safe in my body through the EIQ class. --S.W.
"Willing to Feel Now"
What keeps me from being really open and willing and looking forward to my partner doing (x, y, z) again, is that I believe I don't want to feel the feeling of diminishment again. Once questioned that, and having experienced the energy of diminishment without the story, it now feels much more possible to be willing to feel that again, and him to do x, y, z again. Thank you to my partner for our great work together. --V.S.
"Authentic Direct Experience"
My experience with my partner (session 6 this evening) was the direct experience that I could indeed feel what I’d believed was too much. I could allow the energy of “unloved” live...I could feel the space of neutral kindness - that this is who I am with all the space to let the energy have its life. I actually felt the “I look forward to” feeling unloved- actually feeling the energy vs involving with thoughts about it. It was authentic. --N.P.
"Very Clear to Me"
Thank you Elizabeth for your writings. I appreciate them and use the to connect and guide me back. In particular the way you bring in the Tao and movies - it flows together to make something very clear to me. --S. G.
"Feelings CAN'T Hurt Me"
"I don’t ever want to feel worthless." When I let feelings to have their life, the worst what happened was experiencing the heat, pressure, tears. The belief that “I” has to be protected from worthlessness is not making sense anymore. The feelings CAN'T hurt me. The hurt happens when I surpress my feelings and criticize them as unacceptable. --R.C.
"THE Turning Point"
My private session with Elizabeth was the turning point... not only of the course but “the turning point” period… -- D. L.
"This Work is so Liberating!"
Good morning. I posted my turnarounds a few days ago before I had finished the Tale-end inquiry as I wasn't sure what we were to post. I finished the inquiry this morning and did the turnarounds again, and I am blown away by how different the new turnarounds are! This work is so liberating! The difference in how I feel is amazing, there is SO MUCH SPACE around the belief and my experience through it. THANK YOU!—S.T.
"No Need to Hide Feelings Anymore"
Thank you to you all....my fellow classmates and intrepid adventurers. I so value your openness and sincerity in class and sharing on Facebook your thoughts. I see the value of my body and its sensations after this class. No need to keep hiding them in my body anymore. --T. R.
"Many Parallels with Eckhart Tolle's 'Pain Body' "
There are many parallels of Elizabeth's approach to honoring and releasing negative energy with Eckhart Tolle's concept of the "Pain Body". --G. S.
"Release from Old Stories"
This class was as challenging as it was rewarding and I feel lucky to have worked with my partner - her experience, kindness and encouragement was just invaluable. Elizabeth’s way of guidance through the denseness and lightness of my thoughts, energetic sensations and release from some very old stories of responsibility was a gift. I am also very appreciative to have been witness to others brave insights and experiences throughout the class🙏 thank you! --M.K.
"A New Life for Me"
I loved this class and got so very much out of it. I loved the private sessions with you Elizabeth where I got to experience the class work we had been learning as a client of yours with so much experience in this. 3 sessions really is a great idea to sit deeply in and learn the theory in class alongside practice.
I got to face some really painful thoughts I had been carrying.
I left our last session thinking "I can choose to engage in misery ...or not!". What an amazing insight! I don't even know how to think of myself now. When someone complains I wonder what I will think, say and do?? I have been one to sympathise with others to show them I care and I am really listening....now what! A new life for me after this class. --J. S.
"The Light Gets In"
I can now better understand that the labels, interpretations and judgments is what is bringing the sensations— crying, heat, tightness vs the actual situation. I had labeled these sensations as bad, unwanted, need to resist, escape etc., creating more tension and anxiety. Thanks to this class, I can find a softer, kinder place of noticing and allowing/accepting the sensations to flow through and out of my “body” versus shunning, labeling them with such rigidity, rejection, resistance and harshness. I have lived life in such a fearful, anxious controlling way to avoid any situations that might bring on my “bad” unacceptable weak feelings — it is so refreshing to see / feel that that I can find some rays of light — “there is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in” 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you!! --B. W.
"Extraordinary Inner Journey"
Thank you for this 6 weeks of extraordinary inner journey. -- M. I.
"Realize Now that I Have Choice"
Never was I able to realize that I have a choice as much… the that I have the option to drop involvement with emotions, or that I can choose to keep it… --S. N.
Thank you everyone for this profound Work. I am so grateful to you all. --F. A.
"Only One Label"
According to ACIM, there are only two emotions, Love and Fear. And only Love is real. Maybe all the mind-made labels are really referring to one only label, Fear, and not even Fear is real. --L.D.
"A Real Shift"
Working with everybody has been so helpful but tonight working with my partner, I noticed a real shift in the sensation--not a disappearing like the mind wants, but an opening and softness and tenderness with it. It is difficult to find words for it. I love that, when I stay with the sensations that I don't want to feel as the space WITHOUT the story, that the story disappears in that moment, and the person I can't forgive disappears with it. --M. P.
Section A: 6 Sundays, 11 a.m. -- 12:30 p.m. PT, August 26th -- September 30th, 2018
Section B: 6 Mondays, 5 p.m. -- 6:30 p.m. PT August 27th - October 1, 2018
Tuition: $397, includes 6 meetings, 3 private sessions with Elizabeth ( $297 value), Facebook private group page, comprehensive class summaries, inspirations (movie clips, poetry, quotes.)
Send email to email@example.com indicating your interest in either Sunday or Monday class.
Make your payment: https://www.paypal.me/EJLavine Enter the amount ($397.)
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And that's it!
The Work and Emotional Intelligence Level 2 (Pre-requisite: completion of Level 1)
6 Sundays, 11 a.m. -- 12:30 p.m. PT, July 8th -- August 12, 2018
Tuition: $547, includes 6 group meetings, 3 private sessions with Elizabeth ( $447 value), Facebook private group page, comprehensive class summaries, inspirations (movie clips, poetry, quotes.) As well, all graduates are invited to join the EIQ Advanced FB page, an on-line Sangha of EIQ course graduates.
In this Level 2 Course, we will deepen our inquiry by going into the feeling of me in the body—chronic identification with emotionality. This chronic emotionality is sometimes referred to as “trauma.” As such, trauma is not yet widely recognized as having a correlation with the workings of the physiology (the nervous system).
Trauma in the spiritual sense, is a result of believing that what I am is a body: a fragment, cut off from the whole of Life, and the sense of being under threat from every little thing in one’s life experience. This belief is the cause of all addiction, anxiety, depression and un-resolved conflict.
It requires cultivation of presence, to break the spell of body identification and the sense of traumatized body. But for avid truth-seekers, “being present” being still, “sitting” in the questions is often challenging or can even seem not possible. What's needed to effectively cultivate presence, is to break the spell of the past, as manifested in the physiology. As we break the spell and grow the capacity to be present, the nervous system ceases moving into fight, flight, freeze or inner collapse mode. When this occurs, the cognitive brain is relieved of the tendency to judge “Out there.”
This is how to resolve the story of the past--to let it unwind from the nervous system; then, to identify and question any "prevent thoughts" or prevent feelings which do not allow one to take intelligent action to live in present time, meeting life free from the burden of the past.
With The Work and Emotional Intelligence (Level 1) our starting point was learning how to let disturbed energies (feelings) have their life. Byron Katie calls this process, “taking the ride.” Emotional Intelligence Level 2 is about learning how to address the chronic feeling of me in the body--the habit of the memorized and rehearsed past. Addressing this feeling is what allows the shift from person-based, body-based identity to Presence-based identity.
Some things we will focus on:
Inquiry into "the feeling of me."
The Living Turnarounds. Identifying and questioning “prevent” thoughts and prevent feelings, to implement our realizations from inquiry.
Inquiry into Awareness
Tale-Ender review and Living Turnarounds; turnaound to the other.
The 3-second pause and Answer only Yes or No
How to take life-changing action: Find the historical Moment of impact (false identification) and turn it around in action.
Participation: LIMITED ENROLLMENT maximum of 12 partipants
Online class using Zoom conferencing, audio only. Classes will not use video. Classes will be recorded for educational purposes, (printed material and transcripts). Recordings are not sent out to individual participants. Private sessions have the option to use video, and be recorded, and you are welcome to a copy of your recorded session.
Tuition: $547 includes 6 Teleclasses, 3 private sessions, support on private Facebook group page, assigned partner for practice, handouts, inspirational materials including transcripts, movie clips and quotes.
By email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Payment via Paypal to https://www.paypal.me/EJLavine
Contact me to discuss other payment options (check, credit card.)
If you prefer to take the course privately, you may do so. The private course is a series of 12 one-on-one sessions with me. Please email me for information.
"Even More Grateful"
Today I'm even more grateful (if it possible) to Elizabeth for guiding us so gently into conscious awareness. It possible and much easier now for me to allow and receive feelings that I collected through the eons of time and let them have their life. --C.H.
"Until EIQ I Couldn't Find the Space"
The past few years in a row I would attend a weekly silence retreat with Jeff Foster. His honestly is raw and encouraging so much that in his soft presence I came out of my shell and felt alive but till the EIQ with you I couldn't find or relax into that space allowing and receiving my feelings, and for that I'm deeply grateful to you and classmates. --R. L.
"This Teaching is Essential"
This series with Elizabeth and the group support is a catalyst in the integration of the "most difficult parts" of my certification program with ITW, the many silents retreats I lived with Adyashanti, a month long silent retreat in a Tibetan meditation center, and so many other events that were experienced with "shocking degrees" but without the “letting-go and releasing algorithm" that was given during the EIQ curriculum and experiences set. In one way or another, one form or another, one language or another, this teaching is essential and either met accidentally, or deliberately with the grace of being pointed to this course and Elizabeth. Can I say thank you once again? --G.F.
"Progress Alongside Us"
I enjoy how you share your experimentation and progress alongside us Elizabeth. I can’t remember the last time I had a teacher who did that!
"Passed with Flying Colors"
I have passed every “test” I ever wanted to pass with my mother, with flying colors. I have sat with the sensations and said to them “you do your thing while I listen to my mother”. I don’t have to tell you, IT WORKS. I am purely grateful and humbled and in awe. And I continue to release and unravel! Thank you Elizabeth and friends in the work. --M.Z.
Feeling huge gratitude for this amazing work you offer dear Elizabeth, and to all my fellow travelers. Thank you.
"Best Session I've Ever Had"
After our last session I felt "this is the best hour-long session I've ever had with any teacher, therapist, trainer in my whole life” ... and I wanted to thank you, thank you, thank you for that!! --A.N.
This Work and my sessions with Elizabeth have been life changing. --R.V.
"Makes Meditation Come Alive"
Wow, wow, wow. I’ve been meditating for many years, and could not find the deep space of meditation in my daily life, full of constant triggers. After just one session with Elizabeth, I realize this approach with emptying out the backlog of feelings, makes meditation come alive in my daily experience. --J.J.
"Waiting All My Life"
I’ve been waiting for this Work with emotions, all my life. --C.W.
Sacred Relationship: Find the Love of Your Life
Are you on a spiritual path, craving the unity of Being one with all—but struggle with seeing the sacred in your partner? (Or your mother, employer, family member.)
“It’s one thing to believe that every encounter with another human being is sacred, and another to know it directly while in relationship. That is love; that is what transforms the world.” -Eckhart Tolle
The fear of being vulnerable creates a hard shell of separation. With inquiry, we offer hardened beliefs and chronic emotions to the healing light of consciousness. This is how we know the sacred directly in relationship.
The most common cause of broken relationships is the inability to face and resolve hurt feelings.
However, if someone hurts your feelings by criticizing, insulting or even betraying you, there is a golden opportunity. The opportunity is to discover an innate capacity to allow that experience rather than reacting or retaliating; as you discover and cultivate this capacity, deep transformation occurs.
It is only our conditioning which has prevented us from discovering this capacity. Our conditioning is, “When my stuff gets triggered (hurt, anger, grief, fear, disappointment), then I have no choice but to react!” Even stronger conditioning dictates, “I must prevent my stuff from being triggered at all costs.” (Even if the cost is breaking a relationship.)
Other ways we've been conditioned: We think “our stuff” (mental positions, entitlement, rights, vulnerable emotions, hardened emotions) is the same as “our self.”
Inquiry gives us the wisdom to discern. We discover that “my thoughts” are beliefs which I can question, and that I have the undeniable freedom to carry on being involved with them, or divorce them. We discover that it is never our partner who is the problem, but only our involvement (in-love-ment) with untrue thoughts!--and our lack of emotional resilience.
There is nothing better than relationship, to reveal precisely what programs and conditioning make up the hard shell of separation. Because when your relationship partner attacks or threatens your mental position, this is the God-given moment to surrender your stuff, instead of holding on to it.
In this way, our partner is an Angel—exposing to the light what we could not or would not see; and thus, giving us the golden opportunity to break the hard shell of separation that keeps us from the life we long for: Laughter, deep connection, unity consciousness, peace, harmony.
Relationship, when consciously used to reveal and let go your programs, is Sacred Relationship.
Here are some topics we will explore in Sacred Relationship:
• Love or Emotionality? Wanting approval / avoiding disapproval; I don't want to feel______ / I am entitled to feel______.
• Equality: “I don't want you to parent me.” Historical impact of chronic emotions.
• “I can't stand it when they____”
• Silent Treatment vs. True Silence: Transforming the tendency to justify, defend, explain.
• Transformation: Conscious Journaling to support the miracle as it unfolds.
6 Wednesdays, 6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. PT
April 11th, 18th, 25th; May 2nd, 9th and 16th, 2018
6 Wednesdays, 10:00 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. PT
April 11th, 18th, 25th, May 2nd, 9th, and 16th 2018
We will use Zoom online webinar technology.
Tuition: $547, includes 6 meetings, 3 private sessions with Elizabeth ( $447 value), membership in a private Facebook group, email support with Elizabeth during the 6 weeks.
Send email to email@example.com indicating Sacred Relationship course, (morning or evening section.)
Make your payment: https://www.paypal.me/EJLavine
And that's it!
30-Day 911! Awareness Course
Description: If you are experiencing a spiritual or material crises--Loss, Addiction, Eating Dis-orderly, Relationship or Job Crises--I am happy to meet daily for 30 days (Over a period of 30-40 days) to support you. I know how challenging a crises can feel. I've been there!
Over the years, I have been supported by many amazing facilitators in The Work, The Living Inquiries, The Sedona Method, and Pain-Body Release. I've been held and supported during recovery from food addiction, a 16-month period of insomnia, suicidal depression, loss of a relationship, loss of livelihood, isolation and loneliness.
Just knowing that someone is available to hold the space for you, to meet you "In the field," someone who does not judge you, has no expectations of you and who supports your desire for freedom from suffering, can be immensely helpful.
This Course takes place by daily Skype or phone meetings. (video optional.) As well, if you live nearby, we can meet face to face on some or all of the days if that is something that appeals to you.
In addition to your daily session with me, you receive one daily "no-delay" Skype or phone meeting for 15-30 minutes. You can use these 'no-delay' calls to simply check in and report any shifts, ask any questions, or for extra assistance when something arises that "argues" with the clarity you find in our regular daily sessions. Some people just find these check-ins invaluable at bedtime or upon waking up in the morning. Establishing a powerful field of Presence at these times has a carry-over effect.
Please contact me to discuss scheduling options or to discuss your particular challenge.
"Out beyond mere ideas
of right and wrong,
There is a field.
I will meet you there."---Rumi
"I have been doing the Work since 2004 and have worked with and facilitated many people. Of everyone that I have worked with or discussed the work with, no one has ever been able to frame the concepts and basic truths as eloquently, simply and beautifully as you did today with me on the phone. Your insight into our innocence is astounding. Thank you for your incredible ability to listen and hear and accept, your brilliantly simple communication, and that you inhabit your insights." --SJ
"The reason the Whole Truth can be found within you is because you
are both the specific and a complete expression of the Whole Truth." ---Vernon Howard