The Work and Emotional Intelligence
Finding one’s inner wisdom, and letting this wisdom come forward in life situations is the essence of The Work. For this, we have to learn how to be rest as Quietness—what Katie calls “The Presence that’s always with you.”
Identify + Question = Intelligence. The Work increase awareness as fast as you are willing and able. Perhaps the most significant thing that can happen to you is discovering that your thoughts appear—like raindrops, but you have the unlimited freedom to choose to believe them—or not.
Now we come to emotions. These, too, appear, as inner weather. These, too, cannot compel one to suffer from them. As we become more intelligent, we realize, “Why would I indulge negative emotions, since they bring only suffering? What good is fear, anger, hate, resentment, or moodiness?”
In this class, we'll identify and question any chronic negative emotion, to become emotionally intelligent. Intelligence give up what is not intelligent—negativity, self-doubt, moodiness.
It's intelligent to realize what's real in you, to realize that involving with negativity is the same as denying or ignoring God, Reality, the good of Life. And involvement with the negative can only happen because of thinking—unquestioned thoughts which “sell” benefits to involving with negative emotions. These thoughts keep one identified as an excitable person, or a depressed, worthless, special, touchy, vulnerable, powerful, or victim “person.”
In this class, we will learn how to identify and question any thoughts which urge involvement with negative emotions. More significantly, we will learn how to let these disturbed energies have their life.
Emotional intelligence is to willingly and consciously “take the ride,” of letting feelings have their life.
“I had the thought ‘This [feeling] is going to kill me,’ and I heard, ‘Is it true?’ and noticed who I would be without the story and I took the ride, and what comes back every time is more powerful than the last.
And what comes back is…. You know, I just invite you to die into love." ---Byron Katie
Gradually, as learn how to “take the ride,” you'll dissolve the tendency to judge “out there,” in an attempt to control the emotional experience “in here.” Thus, chronic judgments and resentments vanish.
This, then is the ultimate gift in Identify + Question + negative emotions. Because negative emotions will not be solved by “fixing” something or someone out there. They only resolve as you discover what's real in you—that which is already undisturbed by negative energies—and as you grow your capacity to be that.
This is why emotional storms are worthy adversaries. They help you awaken the sleeping giant of awareness within.
Here are some comments from recent Telecourse Participants:
I would like to share with Elizabeth and all participants the result of the work I did with Elizabeth in private session last week.
It was a long story of a 25 yearlong friendship interrupted with periods of quarrel; in spite of the many worksheets I did on this friend, the resentment i had never stopped; this time we entered through the feeling/energy and all its process.... Shortly after we finished the session I found that I could call her with a very clear voice and express what I intended without any bitterness nor resentment; we met as I asked her to solve the business which was on then; but the miracle for me is that I finally drop all expectation about this relationship, what I knew in my mind for a long time has got down in my body, she is as she is and i can't change her! Thanks. --B.L.
Thank YOU! The course was really beneficial and I see "your way" as marrying The Work and MFN [Mindfulness]. It has been extremely beneficial in my life to realise I can let my feelings have their life without having to shout at someone or some other violent act. --J.B.
What keeps me from being really open and willing and looking forward to my partner doing (x, y, z) again, is that I believe I don't want to feel the feeling of diminishment again. Once questioned that, and having experienced the energy of diminishment without the story, it now feels much more possible to be willing to feel that again, and him to do x, y, z again. Thank you to my partner for our great work together. --V.S.
My experience with my partner (session 6 this evening) was the direct experience that I could indeed feel what I’d believed was too much. I could allow the energy of “unloved” live...I could feel the space of neutral kindness - that this is who I am with all the space to let the energy have its life. I actually felt the “I look forward to” feeling unloved- actually feeling the energy vs involving with thoughts about it. It was authentic. --N.P.
Thank you Elizabeth for your writings. I appreciate them and use the to connect and guide me back. In particular the way you bring in the Tao and movies - it flows together to make something very clear to me. --S. G.
"I don’t ever want to feel worthless." When I let feelings to have their life, the worst what happened was experiencing the heat, pressure, tears. The belief that “I” has to be protected from worthlessness is not making sense anymore. The feelings CAN'T hurt me. The hurt happens when I surpress my feelings and criticize them as unacceptable. --R.C.
My private session with Elizabeth was the turning point... not only of the course but “the turning point” period… -- D. L.
Thank you to you all....my fellow classmates and intrepid adventurers. I so value your openness and sincerity in class and sharing on Facebook your thoughts. I see the value of my body and its sensations after this class. No need to keep hiding them in my body anymore. --T. R.
There are many parallels of Elizabeth's approach to honoring and releasing negative energy with Eckhart Tolle's concept of the "Pain Body". _G. S.
This class was as challenging as it was rewarding and I feel lucky to have worked with my partner - her experience, kindness and encouragement was just invaluable. Elizabeth’s way of guidance through the denseness and lightness of my thoughts, energetic sensations and release from some very old stories of responsibility was a gift. I am also very appreciative to have been witness to others brave insights and experiences throughout the class🙏 thank you! --M.K.
I loved this class and got so very much out of it. I loved the private sessions with you Elizabeth where I got to experience the class work we had been learning as a client of yours with so much experience in this. 3 sessions really is a great idea to sit deeply in and learn the theory in class alongside practise.
I got to face some really painful thoughts I had been carrying.
I left our last session thinking "I can choose to engage in misery ...or not!". What an amazing insight! I don't even know how to think of myself now. When someone complains I wonder what I will think, say and do?? I have been one to sympathise with others to show them I care and I am really listening....now what! A new life for me after this class. --J. S.
I can now better understand that the labels, interpretations and judgements is what is bringing the sensations— crying, heat, tightness vs the actual situation. I had labeled these sensations as bad, unwanted, need to resist, escape etc., creating more tension and anxiety. Thanks to this class, I can find a softer, kinder place of noticing and allowing/accepting the sensations to flow through and out of my “body” versus shunning, labeling them with such rigidity, rejection, resistance and harshness. I have lived life in such a fearful, anxious controlling way to avoid any situations that might bring on my “bad” unacceptable weak feelings — it is so refreshing to see / feel that that I can find some rays of light — “there is a crack in everything, that’s how the light get in” 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you!! --B. W.
Thank you for this 6 weeks of extraordinary inner journey. -- M. I.
Next time I feel criticised by someone, I'll just say in a very calm and composed tone: "You know what! I have just had the thought that you are criticising me and, as a result, there is an energy of heat and pressure occurring now - and I'm going to just be the calm openness and witness it as it passes through.”I think the above would drive him crazy! LOL --D. Y.
Never was I able to realize that I have a choice as much… the that I have the option to drop involvement with emotions, or that I can choose to keep it… --S. N.
Thank you everyone for this profound Work. I am so grateful to you all. --F. A.
According to ACIM, there are only two emotions, Love and Fear. And only Love is real. Maybe all the mind-made labels are really referring to one only label, Fear, and not even Fear is real. --L.D.
Working with everybody has been so helpful but tonight working with my partner, I noticed a real shift in the sensation--not a disappearing like the mind wants, but an opening and softness and tenderness with it. It is difficult to find words for it. I love that, when I stay with the sensations that I don't want to feel as the space WITHOUT the story, that the story disappears in that moment, and the person I can't forgive disappears with it. --M. P.
Section A: 6 Sundays, 11 a.m. -- 12:30 p.m. PT, May 13 -- June 17th, 2018
Section B: 6 Mondays, 5 p.m. -- 6:30 p.m. PT May 14th - June 18th, 2018
Tuition: $397, includes 6 meetings, 3 private sessions with Elizabeth ( $297 value), Facebook private group page, comprehensive class summaries, inspirations (movie clips, poetry, quotes.)
Send email to email@example.com indicating your interest in either Sunday or Monday class.
Make your payment: https://www.paypal.me/EJLavine Enter the amount ($397.)
Email me if you need alternate payment method.
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Sacred Relationship: Find the Love of Your Life
Are you on a spiritual path, craving the unity of Being one with all—but struggle with seeing the sacred in your partner? (Or your mother, employer, family member.)
“It’s one thing to believe that every encounter with another human being is sacred, and another to know it directly while in relationship. That is love; that is what transforms the world.” -Eckhart Tolle
The fear of being vulnerable creates a hard shell of separation. With inquiry, we offer hardened beliefs and chronic emotions to the healing light of consciousness. This is how we know the sacred directly in relationship.
The most common cause of broken relationships is the inability to face and resolve hurt feelings.
However, if someone hurts your feelings by criticizing, insulting or even betraying you, there is a golden opportunity. The opportunity is to discover an innate capacity to allow that experience rather than reacting or retaliating; as you discover and cultivate this capacity, deep transformation occurs.
It is only our conditioning which has prevented us from discovering this capacity. Our conditioning is, “When my stuff gets triggered (hurt, anger, grief, fear, disappointment), then I have no choice but to react!” Even stronger conditioning dictates, “I must prevent my stuff from being triggered at all costs.” (Even if the cost is breaking a relationship.)
Other ways we've been conditioned: We think “our stuff” (mental positions, entitlement, rights, vulnerable emotions, hardened emotions) is the same as “our self.”
Inquiry gives us the wisdom to discern. We discover that “my thoughts” are beliefs which I can question, and that I have the undeniable freedom to carry on being involved with them, or divorce them. We discover that it is never our partner who is the problem, but only our involvement (in-love-ment) with untrue thoughts!--and our lack of emotional resilience.
There is nothing better than relationship, to reveal precisely what programs and conditioning make up the hard shell of separation. Because when your relationship partner attacks or threatens your mental position, this is the God-given moment to surrender your stuff, instead of holding on to it.
In this way, our partner is an Angel—exposing to the light what we could not or would not see; and thus, giving us the golden opportunity to break the hard shell of separation that keeps us from the life we long for: Laughter, deep connection, unity consciousness, peace, harmony.
Relationship, when consciously used to reveal and let go your programs, is Sacred Relationship.
Here are some topics we will explore in Sacred Relationship:
• Is he / she the right one for me to be with? (A lover, spouse, parent, family member, employer), anyone you are in relationship conflict with.
• Love or Emotionality? Wanting approval / avoiding disapproval; I don't want to feel______ / I am entitled to feel______.
• Equality: “I don't want you to parent me.” Historical impact of chronic emotions.
• “I can't stand it when they____”
• Silent Treatment vs. True Silence: Transforming the tendency to justify, defend, explain.
• Transformation: Conscious Journaling to support the miracle as it unfolds.
6 Wednesdays, 6:00 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. PT
April 11th, 18th, 25th; May 2nd, 9th and 16th, 2018
6 Wednesdays, 10:00 a.m. to 11:30 a.m. PT
April 11th, 18th, 20th, 25th, May 2nd and 9th, 2018
We will use FreeConference online webinar technology.
Tuition: $349, includes 6 meetings, 1 private sessions with Elizabeth ( $125 value), membership in a private Facebook group, email support with Elizabeth during the 6 weeks. Early bird (pay in full by March 15th , 2018) tuition is $299.
Send email to firstname.lastname@example.org indicating Sacred Relationship course, (morning or evening section.)
Make your payment: https://www.paypal.me/EJLavine
Enter the amount ($349 or $299.)
And that's it!
30-Day 911! Awareness Course
Description: If you are experiencing a spiritual or material crises, I am happy to meet daily for 30 days (Over a period of 30-40 days) to support you. I know how challenging a crises can feel. I've been there!
Over the years, I have been supported by many amazing facilitators in The Work, The Living Inquiries, The Sedona Method, and Pain-Body Release. I've been held and supported through a life-threatening addiction, a 16-month period of insomnia, suicidal depression, loss of a relationship, loss of livelihood and isolation and loneliness.
Just knowing that someone is available to hold the space for you, to meet you "In the field," someone who does not judge you, has no expectations of you and who supports your desire for freedom from suffering, can be immensely helpful.
This Course takes place by daily Skype or phone meetings. (video optional.) As well, if you live nearby, we can meet face to face on some or all of the days if that is something that appeals to you.
In addition to your daily session with me, you receive one daily "no-delay" Skype or phone meeting for 15-30 minutes. You can use these 'no-delay' calls to simply check in and report any shifts, ask any questions, or for extra assistance when something arises that "argues" with the clarity you find in our regular daily sessions. Some people just find these check-ins invaluable at bedtime or upon waking up in the morning. Establishing a powerful field of Presence at these times has a carry-over effect.
Please contact me to discuss scheduling options or to discuss your particular challenge.
"Out beyond mere ideas
of right and wrong,
There is a field.
I will meet you there."---Rumi
"I have been doing the Work since 2004 and have worked with and facilitated many people. Of everyone that I have worked with or discussed the work with, no one has ever been able to frame the concepts and basic truths as eloquently, simply and beautifully as you did today with me on the phone. Your insight into our innocence is astounding. Thank you for your incredible ability to listen and hear and accept, your brilliantly simple communication, and that you inhabit your insights." --SJ
"The reason the Whole Truth can be found within you is because you
are both the specific and a complete expression of the Whole Truth." ---Vernon Howard